If it didn't make a difference what the overall society and your local culture looked like, history would be a lot different. I'm not going to compare everyone who grew up being dragged around cowtowns in Texas in the 20's and 30's to the best people of that time and place. If you don't contextualize things, 99% of the human race across most of history seems terrible, and if that's how other people want to see it, that's on them, but I'm not going to forget when people were steeped in expectations that this stuff was okay, especially when they apparently got better about it over time.