A fun time with friends. The ability to be creative in making a world and NPCs. Crafting stories together we'll remember for years. Thrills, laughs.
I just don't get it often. I'm working too hard to be able to have a good time. Everyone else but me gets to have fun.
My prep for my 3 hour 5e game last night was 15 minutes of sketching out a notional floorplan for a townhouse and a couple notable things in rooms, a quick list of significant NPCs at the party with a couple quirks; and probably another 15-20 minutes of finding some damn maps for my VTT in case it came up (it didn't).
The rest was "present premise" and boom, go. My players said it was the funniest and most enjoyable session yet. We started in a pre-made adventure, and have dropped that to pursue stuff they want to and its been vastly smoother sailing since.
Yeah, not everybody can run like this, but you sound self-flagellating in every post you make, like the DM bound upon the cross of endless prep + terrible play.