chalk me up into the sheep camp.
I too often use other sources than first hand trial before i try something. if a "freind" of mine seriously tells me that his food is spoiled, and i ordered the same thing i am unlikely to gulp mine down in the interest of first hand information.
i often get news from media, as opposed to rushing out to interview the people involved myself.
I sometimes listen to paid critics who, over time, I have found to have opinions that match mine.
I also listen to friends whose opinions, over time, i have come to regard well.
In short, when dealing with second hand information, i let my experiences with the source guide me as to whether or not i put stock in it.
If I suspected that the player in question was working off false information, or most of the time when i feel anyone is wrong, I would have let him finish his statement. Then, armed with KNOWLEDGE of what he was talking about, i could choose to point out the errors, the false info he was working on.
The player was assuming, based on a report he found credible, that 3.5 was as bad as he thought. OK, maybe that was a dubious decision. However, the responder who cut him off repeatedly was working off the presumption that the info the polayer had was inaccurate... not based on a trusted recommendation but rather on his own assumption.
i would much rather be the player who made judgement based on decisions from a source than the other who simply seemed to assume.
Thats probably just me.
BTW, with the SRD out now, and my various perusals, DND 3.5 is actually a little worse than i expected from the prerelease net stuff, dragon articles, online wotc spotlights and so forth. (The level of "annoyance changes" are much greater than i had feared.) So sometimes first hand may not automatically turn one into a wotc fan sheep.