Do you tell pretty girls that they're pretty?

[reveal]

You know, Rel... that is the exact response *I* got from your wife last night when I told her that she had very nice ... eyes.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

I would have bet money that that was going to be your response, reveal. hehehe.

 

[reveal]

I would have bet money that that was going to be your response, reveal. hehehe.

Why mess with success?

 

[Angel Tarragon]

Every woman I know to some degree I am always complimenting them on their great looks.

What can I say? Most of the gorgeous girls I've seen and met live in CA and AZ.

 

[DaveStebbins]

(note the common theme here: Being pleasant is attractive. Being unpleasant is unattractive.)

Quoted for truth. A great attitude almost always trumps great looks. (Both together is just wonderful!)

I'll agree with most everything Rel has said in this thread. I'm lucky enough to work in a large office and interact with several dozen women on a regular basis. (It is a welcome change from having spent 12 years on a different floor in the same building which was 95% male engineers.) I will often give them specific compliments on how they look today. That said, I also follow several things Rel said, but did not emphasize enough. I give compliments outside of business discussions, and I almost always do it as I exit the conversation. I also generally don't compliment physical attributes unless the conversation has moved in that direction and I know the person works out or is active in maintaining their appearance.

-Dave

 

[Rel]

You know, Rel... that is the exact response *I* got from your wife last night when I told her that she had very nice ... eyes.

I'll be in my bunk.

 

[Rel]

Quoted for truth. A great attitude almost always trumps great looks. (Both together is just wonderful!)

I used to work in a small office. When I was first hired there was a woman who worked there who was objectively very attractive. Tall, blonde, athletic but still curvy. She was such a bitch to me that she ceased to be in any way attractive within a month of me starting work there.

On the other hand we hired a secretary just a week or two after I started. She was a bit on the cute side of plain from my perspective. But she was so sweet and nice and friendly that I became very attracted to her. Everybody in the office (but especially the guys) were heartbroken when she moved away after a couple years.

But (and I think of this as a classic example of "people can change") the "hot woman" in the office got sick and her severe "Type A" personality was forced to slow down a lot. I guess she did some reevaluating of her life because she came to me one day and said, "Looking back I can see that I've really not been very nice to you. I'm sorry and I intend to change that. I hope you'll call me on it in the future if I start acting that way again." (I was stunned.)

Her whole attitude shifted tremendously and...you guessed it: She became very attractive to me again. I guess that when you get right down to it, I'm a "Personality Man".

But, all things being equal, a nice, round ass doesn't hurt.

 

[Belen]

I really enjoy giving compliments to a lady; however, I no longer compliments on looks other than hair or that outfit looks good on you. I tend to be way too nice and that has given off the wrong impression way too often. Sometimes I have had to "be the a-hole" to correct the mistake.

As for Rel, he is one of the nicest guys I know. It is always a pleasure to get to hang out with him.

 

[Kid Socrates]

I don't know that I'd say anything like "You have nice eyes" to another woman. To me, it wouldn't seem right.

Now, I'll think lots of things. And I have a remarkably awesome girlfriend who is perfectly fine with me noticing other people, and doesn't mind when I say something like "Our new office manager 'Kate' is very attractive," or "Man, I wish 'Karen' hadn't stopped working at the leasing office, she was hot." She doesn't care when I say stuff like that because she knows that she's the only person I look at in anything more than an appreciative glance. However, I don't think she'd be thrilled if I were to tell these other women what I thought -- I think it would be very awkward.

I think it's the conscious decision to act on it. Here is a very attractive woman, not my girlfriend, and I am in her company. No problem. When I make the conscious decision to do something about said attractiveness, I have to wonder why I'd do it. It does not help that I am not exactly a master wordsmith, and it would probably come across as a come-on of some kind, when it's not intended as such. Smooth operator, I am not.

So in short, no, I don't think I would, and if I did, I'd probably feel a twinge of guilt, warranted or not. That's just me, though.

-Matt

 

[Rel]

As for Rel, he is one of the nicest guys I know. It is always a pleasure to get to hang out with him.

Your check is in the mail, sir.

By the way, I saw Mike at Danny's BBQ the other night and said hi to him. He was with a bunch of guys who looked like gamers.