We have Ilmater the Broken God, Lord of suffering on the one hand, and Loviatar the Maiden of Pain on the other. Ilmater cares for those who suffer and wants to take away their pain, and Loviatar wants others to suffer (but likes it quite a bit herself). The one's the Arch-Nemesis for the other. Funny that, they should get along well enough as the divine SM-connection.
But both don't actually pray that you shall torture yourself because it's so goddamn good.....
Machismo.. hm... Olidammara could fit into that as well.
In the Avatar Trilogy Sequel Talos once manifests on the prime and makes for quite a macho with his performance, but he'd be no good macho god with his hang of destruction. Finder could be shoved in that direction (though I don't know much more about him than the stuff from FRCS and F&P) and maybe Tempus.
The Drow have Vhaeraun, who shoulb be a honorary macho because of what he did when Zandilar sought him out for help against Lolth.