I got kicked out of my group!

[Funeris]

I've never been axed...but I have held the axe (and recently to boot). Two of my players...boyfriend and girlfriend...had to be cut for the campaign to survive.

This is how it went down: We had a game day in early October and all was well. Now, we use a yahoo group page to organize our game days and to say "No we can't make it such and such day". All of my players had filled out the Calendar for the remainder of the year...with the knowledge that if something changes for a specific month, they go and inform the group.

I set up a game day for last friday and send out an email/reminder about it. The two players replied with, "uh...we're having a party. Can't we reschedule." I checked the calendar...the day I had called as a game day had no notes about people not being able to make it. In fact, it was the only day in November or December that was available. And suddenly it wasn't available.

Needless to say, there was a bit of a spat between myself and these two players. So, I axed them. Removed them from the group page.

Now my group is not confined to only one possible day of the week...which is always invariably bad for the two people that claimed they could play that night. My group has met this month. We have a game day scheduled for next month. No more going 2 or 3 months between sessions...no more forgetting what's happening...and probably, we'll meet regularly now (once every two weeks) once holidays are over.

I can say with some certainty...that in my case the axe was needed. (Now all we have to do is find an additional player--although I'm sure they'll manage in the mean time )

~Fune

 

[Psion]

You - author of the most bitterly despised by C&C fans yet undisputedly based on actual play experience review of C&C.

Your GM - a huge C&C cheerleader who has tried to instigate board wars raiding threads that say uncomplimentary things about C&C.

Could there be a relationship?

 

[DonTadow]

I never had this happen before. The group I was playing with kicked me out. Ok, that might be a bit harsh. I had joined a group several months ago and I really enjoyed it. The players were decent folk, and the GM (Scadgrad) was doing an excellent job.

We had our second child, so I had to miss a few weeks of gaming, and the players informed the GM that they liked it better with just the three of them, so they asked him to tell me not to come back.

I guess these guys had been playing a long time with just the three of them before I joined, and apparently they liked it that way the best. I certainly didn't think there were any conflicts or personality problems, so this came as a surprise to me.

It's ok, I suppose. I've just been too busy right now, and now that we've bought a house, they live on the other side of town now. But I really enjoyed my character, and am at least a little saddened that I won't be able to finish telling her story.


Anyway, does anyone else have a story to share about getting axed from their group?

Hey, it happened with me a year and a half ago in a group.

I feel for you.

My pc was a little rambuctious and I played him to slowly grow on the party. I found a pearl in a treasure i had reached and was going to use it try to get one of the pc characters to like me more. The party was one in which all party treasure was presented and deviced equally. My thing was that I would give it to her next session to mend the differences between our characters. (metagaming I wanted to player to realise that Sparrow (the character I played) was harmless and that I had nothing against her as a player. I explained my actions and before we could get back to the next session I was called by the dm and asked not to come back. It kinda stung a bit as I loved the game (it still is my favorite campaign) but I felt that I wasn't given enough of a chance. The DM told me it was that the other players felt that the chemistry wasn't there (I didn't feel it ) and that they felt more comfortable when it ws only 5 players. Of course the betrayal hit me a month later when I could no longer sign on to the site to interact with the forum. Then I read the adventure summary and discovered that the wife of one ofthe players (whom played with us as a guest during my "last" session) was a permanent player.

 

[der_kluge]

You - author of the most bitterly despised by C&C fans yet undisputedly based on actual play experience review of C&C.

Your GM - a huge C&C cheerleader who has tried to instigate board wars raiding threads that say uncomplimentary things about C&C.

Could there be a relationship?

Ouch! Psion, that's not fair. While Scadgrad and I had fundamental philosophical differences regarding game play, I think the actual game play went well. We disagreed on a few minor points, really. Overall, I think we agreed that story was important, and plot and character were important. We had a disagreement over some mechanics WRT to multi-classing rules, and in general I felt balance was more important, and he felt it was less important. But we're adults, and we took our disagreements in stride.

Really, I differed with one of the other players more. He was a very cautious role-player - took volumes and volumes of notes from every game, and was generally very methodical in his approach towards danger. My character was a brash, impulsive 16 year old girl who was in the "let's kick the door in, and figure out what happened afterwards" camp. So, on that point, we tended to disagree. It could also have as much to do with the fact that the party bard died, because he failed to follow my (foolproof) plan to mount an attack on an unseelie sorceress. He blamed my character, even though I did nothing wrong.

But, ultimately, I do believe that it boils down to the fact that these guys had been playing a long time, and apparently were just happy with it just being the three of them. They also play CoC and some other games throughout the week as well.

Oh well. I'm ok with it. I'm just too busy right now to game anyway, so when life comes around for me, I'll try to find another group. Maybe go back with the group I was playing with before.

 

[National Acrobat]

Bummer!

Bummer dude!

Curtis, we're now playing DnD 3.5, but you're welcome to come sit in with us. We game at my house, but I live just around the corner from Scadgrad. We don't play every week, sometimes we take a week or two off. If interested, email me at ntlacrobat@verizon.net and I'll fill you in.

 

[Sturtevant]

Totally bogus, dude! Sorry to hear that.
We've had people that miss many sessions, but other players just run the PCs of those missing players. Maybe they didn't like that. Who knows.

Sturt

 

[Psion]

Ouch! Psion, that's not fair. While Scadgrad and I had fundamental philosophical differences regarding game play, I think the actual game play went well.

That's good. I am not privvy to what your actual relationship is like. I can only see public symptoms that, in absence of further information, might lead one to beleive that there could be some sparks there.

 

[sniffles]

I join the chorus of "That sucks!" What sucks is not so much being asked not to come back, but not being given a good explanation of the reason. That's just rude.

I've never been booted from a game myself, but I almost was. We'd been playing in a Fantasy Hero campaign for 3 years, with an epic storyline in which all the PCs played important roles. My PC got to kill a god in the denouement. But unfortunately sometimes I got a bug up my bum about things not going the way I wanted them to, and I complained.
A lot. I also had a tendency to read comic books or draw during the games, and could be known to say "What?" when the GM asked for my character's action. This understandably irritated the GM, and he asked me to stop. I did for a while but then backslid later. So when he was preparing to begin a new campaign after the conclusion of the the above game, he emailed me and told me he wasn't sure he wanted me as a player. I have to say I was stunned, despite knowing about his annoyance with my distraction. I just hadn't seen it as that serious a problem - and in fact that's not what he cited as his issue with me. He told me I was a "conversational bulldozer", talking over other players. This came as a complete surprise to me, and the only times I could think of that I'd done such a thing was when I was desperate to say something and everyone else was already talking. So I guess it's all a matter of perception.

Anyway, we worked it out, and I've been playing in his current campaign for almost three years now. I make a point not to bring any materials to the game that will distract me, and I take care not to shout out - which means sometimes I don't get to do what I want, but it's better than getting kicked out of the game and ruining a 10-year-old friendship.

 

[der_kluge]

That's good. I am not privvy to what your actual relationship is like. I can only see public symptoms that, in absence of further information, might lead one to beleive that there could be some sparks there.

Just so no one thinks Scadgrad is at fault here (and I don't think he is), this was his last email to me:

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it seems there has been a coup
d'etat among the other 3 players. They have decided that the group is just
not as much fun as it had been and have decided that they would rather go
back to just the three of them. It really leaves me without any choice since
they are all in accord, leaving me with the crappy task of breaking the bad
news to you.

Personally, I don't want to burn any bridges here, and I've enjoyed getting
to know you, and gaming with you. The other three however seem pretty
adamant that the game was much more enjoyable in the past and they simply
want to move on.

So, I'm very sad to see you go and I hope that you won't hold it against me
personally. I'd certainly hope that sometime in the future we might be able
to try it again 'cause I've enjoyed having you as a player in what has been
a very challenging campaign. Best of luck to you and the girls and I'm truly
sorry that it's worked out this way.

I certainly don't think that I derailed their game in any way. I simply played my character in the way that seemed the most appropriate, and certainly offered input on the direction, and participated in some good role-playing moments. I certainly never got in any fights with any of the players, and we all got along swimmingly. So, I don't really know what happened.

 

[der_kluge]

Bummer dude!

Curtis, we're now playing DnD 3.5, but you're welcome to come sit in with us. We game at my house, but I live just around the corner from Scadgrad. We don't play every week, sometimes we take a week or two off. If interested, email me at ntlacrobat@verizon.net and I'll fill you in.

NA - thanks for the invite. I may take you up on that some time in the future. Life is kind of busy for me right now anyway, so I think I'll just take a hiatus for a bit.