fredramsey
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Once a week, with few exceptions. Saturdays, noon until 4-6 PM. Ages range from 24 to 43. We all love it, and do our best not to skip unless we have to.
GlassJaw said:I've been going back and reading some of this thread and I've noticed a consistent trend of people that their group is incredibly difficult to schedule.
My response to this is that if YOU want to game more and on a consistent basis, you can ALWAYS find players. If you don't look outside your small circle of gaming friends, then you'll continue to have the same problems.
I'd love to game and game and game, but to me, it's not worth compromising my "comfort zone" to do so.
is gaming your hobby (ala building model cars, computers, or whatever) or is it your favorite activity to do with your friends?
GlassJaw said:Well I will say that you are probably missing out. Most of my really good friends now I've met through gaming. Sure, I've had my share of bad experiences but for every bad game I've left or never returned to, I've met more awesome people than I can count on two hands and two feet. I consider that to be a very good ratio.
kenobi65 said:Well, yes and no. Yes, there may be other things that come up that have to take priority, but no, it doesn't necessarily mean that the player in question isn't very interested in the game.
Some examples, from our group:
- Player comes home from work, ready to go out and play, but his wife's had a horrible day with the kids, and says, "no way in HELL you're leaving again."
- Similarly, kid or spouse gets sick, player doesn't feel good about leaving them home alone.
- Bad weather makes it impossible for the player who lives an hour's drive from the game to get there.
- Flight delays make it impossible for the player coming home from a business trip to get there in time.
- A project comes up at work that forces the player to work late, and thus he can't play.
This is all part of being an adult. It happens. Unless you have a job / relationship / whatever that you just don't give a flip about, when these things come up, they do take priority.
As important as gaming may be to a person, even if you want gaming to be the #1 priority, sometimes, it just can't be. You deal with it.
In our case, I have adjusted the types of adventures I run to cope with it. While we certainly have overarching plots and ongoing storylines, I write the particular adventures so they can be completed in an evening, with the players / PCs who are able to be there.
DungeonmasterCal said:I don't doubt you're likely right. I know there are several gaming groups in my area, but I'm just not a person who's really comfortable around people I don't know well. It's a personal quirk, I know, and I could probably force myself past it. I was actually invited to play in game by another guy I know, but I didn't know anyone else in the group. As game time approached, I became really, really ill and had to bow out. I don't know if it was psychosomatic or if I really had some stomach virus, but very soon after I cancelled going, I began to feel better.
And the gamers I meet in my local bookstore have always...and I mean always had a really high creep factor, from really bad hygiene to a complete lack of social skills (an example is a guy who would lick his lips and stare at every woman who walked by the game section. He even told one of the employees "I like your t**s".
Yeah...I'm a lot happier being a hermit.
And the gamers I meet in my local bookstore have always...and I mean always had a really high creep factor, from really bad hygiene to a complete lack of social skills