Married? Give me advice!

[Turanil]

Then again, I'm a hopeless romantic, of course. All bards are.

But you are Italian don't you?

(BTW: I love Italian women...)

 

[NewJeffCT]

So I got married over a week ago. And so, given that there are a whole lot of married people out there on ENWorld, I thought I'd see what you all had to say about marriage!

Post away...

Well, remember these things as a guy:
1) The wife is always correct
2) If you think your wife is wrong, see Rule #1

My advice is to take this idea semi-seriously at least. Unless it is something extremely important (i.e., involves your family or hers, or money), don't get too worked up about it. There are times where you have to stand your ground and argue back, but many times, it is just not worth a big blow up. And, if you do argue, do your best not to go to bed mad.

Another good thing to say, "Honey, if you like it, I love it." ;=)

And, as another person said above me, women expect you to read their minds and are disappointed when you cannot anticipate their every thought. But, if you do anticipate things once in a while, they love it...

Edited to add - why are you asking this now? Shouldn't you have asked it two weeks or a month ago? Congratulations to you, and good luck.

 

[Turanil]

Well, remember these things as a guy:
1) The wife is always correct
2) If you think your wife is wrong, see Rule #1

My advice is to take this idea semi-seriously at least. Unless it is something extremely important (i.e., involves your family or hers, or money)

So, the next rule to remember about money:
1) The wife is always wrong
2) If you think your wife is correct, see Rule #1

 

[alsih2o]

Lots of things in life are going to SEEM important. Remember which one you took an oath about.

 

[Turanil]

Lots of things in life are going to SEEM important. Remember which one you took an oath about.

(i.e.: playing D&D every night of the week, whatever the wife may scream about it.)

 

[Rel]

I know it's cliche, but: Never go to bed angry.

Actually, it's ok to go to bed mad but don't go to sleep mad. My wife and I have, in our 10 year marriage, gotten in bed angry on more than one occasion but neither of us can get to sleep when we're like that and we always end up discussing whatever is bothering us and blissfully holding each other when we fall asleep.

That reminds me: Sleep naked. There are myriad benefits to this that I won't enumerate.

 

[Cthulhu's Librarian]

Cook dinner together at least once a week. Even if it's just making a quick salad. It gives you time to talk while working together on something.

Eat as many meals as possible together, sitting at the table.

Bring home flowers for no reason at all.

You will have fights. Bad ones, on occasion. That's ok. Everyone fights, and you will get over it.

Money is the thing you will probably fight the most over, so be sure to talk about it often. Don't hide your expenses or the things you buy. Better to get it out in the open early than to have her find it later and have to explain it then.

Take a walk together a few times a week. Even if it's just a walk around the shopping mall (but outside is better). Hold hands while walking.

Make some time for yourself, and time for her to be alone each week. Everyone needs a little breathing room.

Rub her back, feet, whatever when she is tired after a long day at work, or sad. You'll be surprised at how much this will cheer her up.

 

[Turanil]

Hum, I am supposed to phone to a client right now, but... can't resist procrastinate, so:

That reminds me: Sleep naked. There are myriad benefits to this that I won't enumerate.

PLUS:

Bring home flowers for no reason at all.

GIVES YOU THE BEST ADVICE EVER:
Bring home flowers naked, for "no reason at all": There are myriad benefits to this that I won't enumerate.

Don't hide your expenses or the things you buy.

Except gaming books of course.


Okay: time to shutt off the computer.

 

[der_kluge]

Obviously most of the advice here is from the guy's perspective. Olive is a chic, last I knew.

Still, most of it applies.

BTW, the latest issue of Cosmo has "advanced sexual positions" on pg. 130. My wife picked that up for us at the grocery store yesterday. Aren't I a lucky bastard?

 

[Cthulhu's Librarian]

BTW, the latest issue of Cosmo has "advanced sexual positions" on pg. 130. My wife picked that up for us at the grocery store yesterday. Aren't I a lucky bastard?

If you want to give that kind of recommendation, you can't beat The Guide to Getting It On!: The Universe's Coolest and Most Informative Book About Sex for Adults of All Ages from Goofy Foot Press.
Best. Couples. Book. Ever!
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...f=sr_1_1/002-4348101-6309663?v=glance&s=books