You should have been with your party in the house of a farmer eating pie, learning about local gossips. when such an event take 30 minutes of game play it is an encounters and nobody try to use deception skill or cast a spell on the farmer wife.I have never seen this... can you give an example of something that is an obstacle enough to be considered an encounter but no game machanics were used?
except that isn't true... cause the casters have the OPTION to do other but not the non casters
Those encounters are the most challenging in DnD. They require good character personality, ideal, flaw, to have a good sense of the role of your character in the story and the world. And the most difficult part, your multiple class options are mostly useless!