The stratification of different elements in D&D's gameplay loop is one of the reasons why we hear about stuff like this.In my last game that went to 20th level, if I added up the damage dealt the fighter would have come out on top. Utility wise, that's harder to say but probably the bard or rogue.
Declarations of personal opinion and experience does not make other people "willfully blind" to your truth.
Splitting damage, heals, control, and utility requires a spotlight split that no one agrees to be mandatory. This is why 4E did it on the mechanics side