Pineapple Express: Someone Is Wrong on the Internet?

[RealAlHazred]

Gotta say that I have never used any forum’s ignore function.

One reason is that sometimes, the people I most want to ignore are the ones I need to pay more attention to.

Another thing is that it has helped me teach myself how to disengage or otherwise regulate my reactions to others…at least online.

I was going to say the same, but just now I checked and I do actually have a single person in my Ignore list who I've forgotten about.

But I trust past Al. I got you, buddy, I'm sure you had your reasons!

 

[Bedrockgames]

How am I going to understand American Ninja V without having seen the first four in the series?

It can be kind of fun to work your way backwards on ongoing series like that. But I have a feeling you will do just fine without seeing the first four

 

[Umbran]

Another thing is that it has helped me teach myself how to disengage or otherwise regulate my reactions to others…at least online.

The key is getting into your hindbrain one simple fact:
"You can let them have the last word."

That one is hard for many people, but it is the key.

 

[Ryujin]

The key is getting into your hindbrain one simple fact:
"You can let them have the last word."

That one is hard for many people, but it is the key.

It's especially difficult because many such people, being so wrong, will crow about how it's a win for them when you choose to disengage. Still, it's better for your mental health and stress levels, in the long run.

 

[Autumnal]

Right. I made some additions to my ignore list this morning for people mostly behaving okay. But what they want out of RPGs us so utterly different from my wants and therefore assessments of what games are good or bad are really not in the same universe as me. So I ignored them because I kept getting tempted to argue, and there’s no point. We have nothing to say to each about games we like and what we like about them.

 

[prabe]

It's especially difficult because many such people, being so wrong, will crow about how it's a win for them when you choose to disengage. Still, it's better for your mental health and stress levels, in the long run.

My experience is that the trick is to stop arguing without saying you're stopping arguing. Stop responding.

 

[Ryujin]

My experience is that the trick is to stop arguing without saying you're stopping arguing. Stop responding.

That's the route I've taken. Sometimes works, sometimes doesn't.

 

[Autumnal]

My experience is that the trick is to stop arguing without saying you're stopping arguing. Stop responding.

Ohhhhh yeah. This makes it all much easier to handle on my end.

 

[TiQuinn]

That's the route I've taken. Sometimes works, sometimes doesn't.

Same. It depends how patently ridiculous and aggressive I find one's posts. I'm fine with simply ending it on "we disagree", but the folks who occupy my ignore list are typically those who never want to simply disagree.

 

[J.Quondam]

I ignore in order to excise spambots when they clutter up the forum feed, and those ignores get cleared off my list periodically.

Lately, I tend to read the posts I want to read, rather than reading everything. Since I don't D&D5e, I just do little more than skim the most active threads anyway. I've also trained my eye to recognize avatars and skip posts by those likely to annoy me in the threads where they're most likely to do so... which is nice because i can still see them in different contexts where their posts might be more useful.

And when I post (which is much rarer now than in the old days), i usually do so just to say my piece then move on. I'm so tired of arguing. Getting the last word is utterly meaningless on the internet, no point letting it eat me up - especially with so much real and truly important stuff in the world to fret about.