D&D General "Players in my D&D Group Sometimes Play Characters of a Different Gender." (a poll)

"Players in my D&D Group Sometimes Play Characters of a Different Gender."

  • True.

    Votes: 154 91.7%
  • False.

    Votes: 14 8.3%


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True or False: "Players in my D&D Group Sometimes Play Characters of a Different Gender."

This one is pretty straightforward. Do your players ever play characters of a different gender from themselves? Men playing women. Women playing men. Either playing non-binary or vice versa? Is that cool? Is that a problem?

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Dragon Lover
True for my group.

In particular, while everyone has played at least one character in the last 12+ years that was of a different gender from themselves, one player and myself often prefer playing characters of the opposite gender from ourselves (he likes creating and playing female characters, and I enjoy creating and playing male characters).



For a very long time I had an absolute ban on it - I'd seen several instances where it had been horrible and no counter-examples, so that was that. That gradually fell by the wayside about fifteen years ago, largely due to leaving one group and forming another, and fortunately it hasn't been a problem since. (It's still not particularly common...)

Of course, the DM has always played characters of different sexes, genders, and indeed those with neither.



Since as long as I've been playing actually, though I didn't until my first 4e character, purely for the fact that she HAD to be a cartoon cheerleader (out of spite for someone who said all tieflings had to be angstlords), but I'd done it lot since. Currently playing two women out of my four characters.

Sometimes, just sometimes we also play characters of a different species.


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With my beer drinking gaming buddies...
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Limit Break Dancing
Oh yeah, all the time. My main D&D gaming group is all-male, and I'd say about 1/3 of all of our characters have been female.

In my wife's D&D gaming group, I'm the only male player. And in that campaign, the characters are a 50/50 split between both sexes.

Woops, I just noticed that this poll is asking about gender, and not sex. So in that light:

Oh yeah, all the time. My main D&D gaming group is all cis-het male, but I'd say that less than a quarter of our characters are also cis-het. We commonly have characters of a gender that doesn't match that of the player: opposite-gendered characters, nonbinary characters, even a genderfluid eladrin.

In my wife's D&D gaming group, there are two nonbinary players and three cisgender players. Our characters are mostly gendered female, except for a nonbinary elf.
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Heh. Does "player" include the DM?

Every DM is gender fluid! ;)
I once played a hunter game with a dude who refused to RP women. Every woman we tried to interact with went entirely third person novel in their response, so it'd be like:

We meet a dude:

"Hello there. I am Theodore T Dude, and I have a whole backstory and quirks and a voice!"

We meet a lady:

She looks at you and says a greeting. She does not want to talk to you farther. Said in a dull monotone.

So obviously, I had to go visit my heretofore unknown mother and five sisters for character reasons, just to see what happened...


One of my longest played characters, Kalli Bloodblade, did not match my gender. I have run into games though, where the gamemaster was uncomfortable with someone not playing their gender, and wouldn't allow cross-gender play, and I respected that.

I mean, as a DM, I have to do it all the time as NPCs. Why can't I trust my players to be able to do it too as the single character they're running? Also, none of the players in the group are elves, dwarves or whatnot, so why is being a different race not a problem, and gender is?

The real problem for me always seems to be remembering someone isn't playing their gender.

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