We should be persuading people to understand and solve the difficult social conflicts we need to in order to make it work. Instead I see a lot of people shutting those challenges down as transphobic, and de-platforming. ....
i really think people are setting up the wrong enemy here. Cooler heads need to prevail in reasoned debate.
It may be useful at this point to raise the issue of Popper's Paradox, otherwise known as the Paradox of Tolerance - to wit, "If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them."
So, there is a point where even those who are tolerant should stop putting up with intolerant nonsense, especially when that nonsense gives motivation and cover to those who do harm. Eventually, it becomes less about trying to persuade someone, and more about limiting the harm they can do.
I mention this in "mod voice" because our own inclusivity policy is informed by this notion.