And in every single one of these discussions talking about the problematic content in the game some of which absolutely exists and their existence is an irrefutable fact (I'm not saying that every claim that D&D is racist/sexist/bigoted is always right, I'm saying that there are times where it's undeniable that it is/was) . . . there have been people in each and every one of these discussions denying that the topic is a problem and that this specific aspect of D&D has absolutely nothing wrong with it and changing it is just because of internet outrage over nothing.
As a person of color born in the 80s, this basically describes my experience just existing and experiencing race and racism, esp until age 18 or so. A lot of, "nothing to see here, that was all in the past, let's just move on." It's the default move, not just of outright racists, but also among the well intentioned, I think because listening becomes too uncomfortable.
I started a profile on this site and on reddit to try to engage people on these issues, because I grew frustrated with types of arguments people were making about the game. I try to ask the question: "ok, dnd is problematic, but we also love dnd, so what do we do?" A lot of my thoughts on mechanics actually stem from trying to answer this question; ironically, adopting an "old school" sensibility is one that allows you to hack it apart and put it back together, for free, without depending on either a profit-hungry corporation or racist grognards. That said, to actually think about the hobby at that level in an online forum is basically impossible. So probably wise to confine my thoughts to the pizza thread.