Pbartender
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Merkuri said:I don't have problems completing tasks (aside from normal procrastination that everyone gets). I get plenty of stuff done, using todo lists and things like that. My big problem is concentrating when participating in a passive task, like reading a homework assignment or sitting in on a meeting. Nowadays I only read things I'm interested in, so that's not so much a problem, but the meetings are. I don't know how to practice concentrating.
Link an active task to the passive task.
For example, learn how to take good notes, and then take notes during meetings. The act of writing down important points and details form the meeting helps focus concentration, and even then if your mind wanders, you've always got your notes to look back on as a reminder.
Or write down questions you can ask for clarification on points in the meeting... Even if you already know the answer to the question, if it's a good question, ask it anyway. Someone else may be looking for the answer to the same question and not realize it yet, and it always impresses the bosses if an employee asks intelligence questions.
Merkuri said:I also had a problem adding small sums of numbers in my head, and I think it's also related to the ADD. If you asked me to add 23 and 8 without the aid of paper or a calculator I could do it, but it would take me much longer than the average person. My problem is that I can't hold the numbers in my head long enough to do the math. I'll add the 3 and the 8 to get 11 and I know how to carry the 1, but at that point I've already forgotten what the first number was that I'm supposed to be adding (23). When I mentally put that 23 back I forgot what number I got for the 1s place (11). If the numbers are written down in front of me I can do it much easier, but when it's all mental I just can't hold the numbers in place long enough.
Work around the ADD and find a different way to do it that's better for you. A few suggestions...
If you're not too proud to do it, go get an elementray school workbook on mathematics. Get one with pages full of simple addition, subtraction, multiplication and division problems (you know the kind... a page of fifty or a hundred problems for those timed tests we used to take in grade school). Make photocopies of each page and do them in your spare time until its second nature. That way, you don't have to "hold the numbers in your head" for so long, you can add the numbers before you forget what you were doing. (This is what we're doing with my son, at the moment.)
Or, visualize the numbers in your head, as if you had them written down on paper. Visualize carrying that "1" to the top of the tens place, when you add 8 and 3 and get 11. (I do this one a lot, myself... It helps my poor memory to visualize what I'm doing in my head.)
Or, find an alternate way to do the math. For example, when I multiply 19 times 22 in my head, I don't think "9 times 22, plus 10 times 22", because then I start thinking, "9 times 2 plus 9 times 20 plus 10 times 2 plus 10 times 20" and there's too many numbers all at once and I get all muddled up. Instead, I think "20 times 22, minus 1 times 22", which seems a bit convoluted, but is a lot easier for me to do in my head... "20 times 22 = 440; 1 times 22 = 22; 440 minus 22 = 420 minus 2 = 418". (My wife goodnaturedly laughs whenever I do math this way, "That's weird... I don't know how you do it backwards.")
The point is, and what we've been teaching my son for the last 3 years, this: Because of the autism or ADD or whatever, your brain is wired a little bit differently than everybody else's. If you try doing things the way everybody else does them, you are going to run into problems. That doesn't mean you're worse off than a "normal" person, or that you can't do things that they can... Quite the contrary, in fact, many things that "normal" people find difficult can be quite easy for you and vice versa. All it means is that you need to find a different way to do it -- whatever way that happens to work best for you.
For anyone interested, I'd highly recommend reading The Speed of Dark, by Elizabeth Moon.