Chimera said:I'm going to ignore the in-between, 90% of which I have read, and go back to the OP.
Hoarfrost. In other words, this has been building for some time.
I think this is perhaps the basis of the issue. You perhaps feel that you have been entirely giving on your end by always going over to their place to play. Quite a sacrifice, that they do not share with you.
So now you need, for once, a change of venue. You would like to host and have THEM be the ones who drive for an hour. Not entirely unreasonable, but it runs smack into their comfort with the established pattern where YOU do the work and they sit back and wait for you to come to them.
Question: Have you ever had issues with M being less than straight forward in carrying out his agreements with you? Because from this point, he seems to be passive-aggressive.
How much in advance did you call him? If you were already waiting for him, then you could have a valid issue with him just blowing you off and not being courteous enough to call and let you know. If it was several hours in advance, he might just have not gotten to it yet in his otherwise busy schedule.
This isn't necessarily a bad thing, but...
M, like Steel_Wind, says (and I totally DISagree); "Negative Emotions are Evil. You are a bad person for displaying them!".
No, you were deemed 'out of line' because you displayed negative emotions and made M feel uncomfortable.
Again, I think this is the root of the problem. M is entirely comfortable with the current arrangement where you do all the work. You are not and you are chaffing under both the load and M's unwillingness to contribute or compromise.
M does not appreciate the amount of time and effort required to drive this distance in order to play, and he isn't interested in caring about or appreciating your effort in doing so. It is all about his comfort, his life, his schedule.
Now that isn't Evil, that isn't entirely wrong of him. But it isn't good for you.
You really need to sit down with him and let him know, CALMLY, how much effort you are putting in on this and how much it bothers you that you're not being met half-way and do not feel like you are being respected. Maybe he just hasn't considered it. Maybe he doesn't care. But you won't know until you try to work it out.
What you said really made sense to me. You read between the lines. Are you a psycologist? If only I could have put it that way. I was just too upset at the time.