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[DungeonmasterCal]

Krieg...terribly sorry to hear about your marriage. Try to hang onto positive things and not get drawn into depression.

As for what I'm doing, I'm at work and trying to be productive, as well as ducking management. I'm on a new and VERY potent painkiller, and during a strategic planning retreat yesterday, I was the one voted to give my group's presentation. I don't recall much of it, but according to my coworkers, I was damned funny and scathingly frank in presenting our group's grievances. I guess now I'll really see how "open" our policy is toward criticism.

 

[Krieg]

Krieg...terribly sorry to hear about your marriage. Try to hang onto positive things and not get drawn into depression.

Thanks Cal. I went ahead and put myself on lexapro just as a precaution.

As for what I'm doing, I'm at work and trying to be productive, as well as ducking management. I'm on a new and VERY potent painkiller, and during a strategic planning retreat yesterday, I was the one voted to give my group's presentation. I don't recall much of it, but according to my coworkers, I was damned funny and scathingly frank in presenting our group's grievances. I guess now I'll really see how "open" our policy is toward criticism.

I hope you don't catch any flak for it, but damn that is pretty funny!

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

Thanks Cal. I went ahead and put myself on lexapro just as a precaution.

I know some folks who take it, and it's helped them immensely.

I hope you don't catch any flak for it, but damn that is pretty funny!

You won't believe this, but just as I posted my last entry, one of the vice-presidents at the session yesterday sent me a note. Here is an excerpt:

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"Calvin,

Thanks for this message. I thought your comments were funny and appreciated your humor throughout your presentation. You presented some very heavy stuff and the way you handled it really lightened the tone, but kept it serious. Thanks for your leadership on that. I really appreciate that you all were willing to give me time to talk openly and frankly with the group."[/QUOTE]


I should've gotten this painkiller sooner!

 

[Mystery Man]

Now you have to keep taking them.

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

Now you have to keep taking them.

If I must. Sigh...the things I do for the organization! *staggers away batting at imaginary flying fish*

Without naming the painkiller I've been prescribed, here are some of its side effects:

Dizziness, lightheadedness, hallucinations, sedation, euphoria, headache, confusion, disorientation; infrequently weakness, disturbed dreams, insomnia, syncope, visual blurring and focusing difficulty, depression; and rarely tremor, irritability, excitement, tinnitus.

So yes, I was the hit of the strategic planning retreat.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Yep



Ain't that the truth.



I agree with all of this 100%, the main issue for me is that she has moved in with a man that she works with. While that of course hurts me, I am more concerned about him taking advantage of her emotional state right now.

That's what is the hardest part for me to deal with.

Losing her I can live with, but knowing that she is making poor decisions that are going to cause her even more pain in the long run just tears me up inside.

Stay out of it. Because if you say *anything*, she's gonna see you as "meddling in her affairs" and things will just get uglier. I think she's doing this as a "knee-jerk" reaction to the marriage falling apart... All you can hope is that this guy isn't taking advantage of her but if you get in the middle of this, then she's *really* gonna unload on you and make the separation bit even worse, or even the divorce proceedings... I know it's hard for you to do this but you're gonna have to let her go her own way; let her make her own choices. And if this guy ends up being a prick, who knows? She might not think you're so bad anymore.... (it's a stretch but possible).

 

[Krieg]

I definitely know to stay out of it all, it's just difficult for me.

I'm the proactive type and used to be the one that "fixes" everything for everyone.

Being in a position where I am absolutely powerless to help is frustrating to say the least.

Oh well, she's eventually going to have to reap what she's sown I suppose.

 

[Krieg]

She thinks you're the epitome of evil right now.... :\

A follow up on that:

Just got off of the phone with her.

Everything is my fault, I'm turning her family against her (because I talked to them), I'm an a'hole, etc etc

It just boggles my mind that there is so much anger there. I guess she has to villify me right now to make herself feel better, but still....

Wow.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

A follow up on that:

Just got off of the phone with her.

Everything is my fault, I'm turning her family against her (because I talked to them), I'm an a'hole, etc etc

It just boggles my mind that there is so much anger there. I guess she has to villainize me right now to make herself feel better, but still....

Wow.

I have a friend who's now ex-gf get an abortion and then got HIS family against him. Even when he was the one begging her not to do it.... Women can be so vindictive.... and I just happen to be female....

I don't know why people have to hurt others just to prop themselves back up.... I just don't know.

 

[Krieg]

Women can be so vindictive.... and I just happen to be female....

I don't know why people have to hurt others just to prop themselves back up.... I just don't know.

She's going to be like this forever towards me now isn't she?