No.
In fact, ABSOLUTELY NOT.
You are saying the equivalent of "Let's agree to disagree- you think if I take your money it's theft, but it isn't to me!"
Or how about, "I know you think that if I stab you in the face it is assault, but let's agree to disagree."
That is where the knighthood has recourse to non-coercive enchantment spells.
Ahh, I begin to see the issue: your definition of "consent" and "coercion" are far removed from, you know, those used by reasonable people.
In the same "non-coercive" vein, I suppose your knights could bring a maiden to a torture chamber, explain the uses of all the tools and then ask her who she want to bang and that's not coercion either?
Seriously- you do not seem to have
any idea at all about the nature of consent. Your "non-coercive enchantments" are the magical equivalent of roofies. You know that you will go straight to jail for slipping some hottie roofies and sexing her up, right? Do you really not see the equivalence?
There is ABSOLUTELY. NO. WAY. you can paint what this order of knights you are describing is doing as anything but institutionalized mass gang rape.