My point was that there seems to be an undercurrent here that there is a right way to play, and yet simultaneously an overt effort to assert that there is no right way to play. Trying to have the cake and eat it too.
Perhaps you're reading your own pre-existing biases into it?
Key on the issue of "right way to play." Powergaming is, by definition, a way to play the game. If that is how the table is playing, if that's how they are having fun, then there is no problem.
On the other hand, engaging in lengthy rules arguments in order to gain advantage (which is what we are talking about with rules lawyering ... which, again, was covered at length) is not, in fact, playing. It is disruptive to play.
Now, if you want to posit that you have a table of rules lawyers, and a DM that loves arguing, and that the way that they all have fun is to sit around and engage in a debate society about rules ... sure. Why not. More power to them!
Again, it is that lack of self-awareness. The person who will just ... keep ... arguing ...
Oh. Anyway, carry on!