Why do women send mixed signals?

[devilbat]

God made me this way. If he wants He can change the way I am. I did not ask to be this way, God screwed me by making me this way. But I will not take drugs or pretend to be fake. As far as the GF taking me to those places, it was the SAME PEOPLE, ALL THE TIME. After the first 5 times of having the same converation, it gets old, fast.

Man, this sounds an awful lot like "poor me".

I understand medical problems, and I'm not saying they aren't a huge factor in your life, as I have NO clue. But suggesting that you have no control of your curcumstances is an absolute cop out. If you don't want to take drugs to control your medical issues, look into alternative medicines and treatments. If you want to meet a soulmate, get out of you "comfort zone" and put yourself into a position to meet someone. The world doesn't owe you anything, and it's highly unlikely that that special someone will be delivered to your door.

I work in a heavily social atmosphere, and sometimes I hate that I have to be nice to people I don't like, for the sake of business. The truth of the matter is it's a means to an end, and a little short term uncomfortability, ensures long term success.

 

[KenM]

The behavior you're describing doesn't rise to the level of lying. In many cases it doesn't even fly as a 'little white lie'.

Buut to people with AS, it is a lie. So its ok for people not to do things some days and do them when the feel like it?

KenM, have you ever offered to do something and not followed-through?

No.

 

[d20Dwarf]

No.

Why do people have to lie?

 

[Teflon Billy]

I never called on Religion, I called on God, to me there is a difference. So you think a guy that has trouble comminucating with women should not go to an escort service when he needs it? Where everything is clear and upfront instead of the BS you have to deal with put up with from womens games?

I do when he claims (back in post #32)...

[bq]All I want is to find a nice girl to settle down with. I have the place, I have the job I'm happy with. I just want a special someone to share it with.[/bq]

You are, as is par for the course with those who suffer from Aspergers, trying to weasel your way out of having admitted that you don't like your life the way it is. In that Hida Bukkorisu thread, he did the same thing...started claiming that the things that were holding him back (by his own admission) were, in fact, points of pride.

Why are you bringing up that other post? What have i done to hurt you? Whay are you trying to bring that up to other people?

Other people? It's posted in a public thread on this very messageboard.

Why did I post it? I posted it to show that your attempts to dodge the facts (claimig that Aspergers was an Act of God and you wouldn't be defying his wishes) was nothing but that, a dodge.

I'll ask you the same question: If you find the post hurtful, why did you post it?

Why are you trying to hurt me?

I'm not man, I'm trying to wake you up.

 

[Aus_Snow]

You think some woman just wants to walk up to you and announce "I would like to be your soul-mate"?

Honestly, from what I've seen this seems to be a really common Aspergers wish-fulfillment fantasy. But it's not going to happen, man.

It's just not.

Sometimes it just does.

I know that because it happened to me and my g/f.

OK, OK, not *literally* word for word as you put it there, but close enough that yeh, I feel compelled to dispute your claim.

In other words, I met the woman I love, have been with for years, and will be with 'for the duration', and we both knew it'd be this way the day we met. It was quite freaky really; it felt like something preordained (much as we both dislike that idea!) - only amplified by the fact that neither of us was 'looking to score', and there was no third-party involved at any stage.

Total strangers, chance meeting, and that was it.

 

[Teflon Billy]

Sometimes it just does.

I know that because it happened to me and my g/f.

OK, OK, not *literally* word for word as you put it there, but close enough that yeh, I feel compelled to dispute your claim.

In other words, I met the woman I love, have been with for years, and will be with 'for the duration', and we both knew it'd be this way the day we met. It was quite freaky really; it felt like something preordained (much as we both dislike that idea!) - only amplified by the fact that neither of us was 'looking to score', and there was no third-party involved at any stage.

Total strangers, chance meeting, and that was it.

Congrats.

Do you think it's a common enough occurence that this should be his "Plan A"...particlularly given that he thinks talking to new people is "a waste of time" and "BS"?

 

[KenM]

You are, as is par for the course with those who suffer from Aspergers, trying to weasel your way out..........

There you go, judging a person with a disablity and calling us all weasels. You have now idea of the hurt or pain I go though day to day. Don't judge me.

 

[Aus_Snow]

Congrats.

Do you think it's a common enough occurence that this should be his "Plan A"...particlularly given that he thinks talking to new people is "a waste of time" and "BS"?

It depends what you're looking for.

But if the OP truly thinks that talking to new people is all that, well it won't matter what Plans A to Z are.


edit --- That might not have been very clear. OK. I think it might be about as common an occurence for those who *sincerely seek true love, i.e. a soulmate*, as is the occurence of meeting someone who you can be content with, when you're seeking exactly that.

 

[Teflon Billy]

There you go, judging a person with a disablity and calling us all weasels.

Refer back to the Hida thread and watch how he shoots the messenger as well.

I didn't call you weasel ken, I said you were "Weaseling out" of something.

I think it's very telling that that--of all things--is what you focused on in that post.

You have now idea of the hurt or pain I go though day to day. Don't judge me.

I'll judge whatever I like Ken. That's what messageboards are for.

If you wanted unquestioning acceptance I'd advise you to go to a support group...but then I recall what you think of talking to strangers, even when the benefits are obvious.

If you don't want opinion, you came to the wrong place.

 

[Teflon Billy]

It depends what you're looking for.

But if the OP truly thinks that talking to new people is all that, well it won't matter what Plans A to Z are.

Agreed on both counts.