Arkhandus said:
Violence is a natural part of life from the get-go. Kids get into fights, as do adults. Minor violence is not abnormal for children, and not abnormal for them to be exposed to (action cartoons, for example).
Sexuality is purely an adult matter. Children have no natural tendencies regarding the subject until they've matured physically into adults. And children should not be exposed to it while still in their childhood. Doing otherwise would only have repugnant consequences, and no positive consequences. Whereas teaching children martial arts, for example, allows them to defend themselves but does not necessarily make them dangerously violent.
About as rational and objective an explanation I can come up with. In a less rational sense, it's just a matter of politics, religion, and changes in society. Which aren't really topics for EN World.
Whoa. What?
I'm in an anthropology class, and I think pretty much everyone in the class, and any anthropology, would clearly state that sexuality is clearly *NOT* an adult matter. What you are describing, by the way, is a purely western attitude towards sexuality.
Children have no natural tendencies regarding the subject until they've matured physically into adults
Really? In our own culture, where there are "dirty feeligns" towards sexuality in general, children still engage in sex games. We're talking "playing doctor" and all that. Odds are you've done it - most people have as kids, though we're embarrassed to speak about it. Kissing games behind the bushes, or whatever else. Kids do it.
In other cultures, this becomes much more overt. There can be a lot of latent sexuality in children. These tendencies are learned from observation, true - but then again, so is violence. So I don't get that.
And children should not be exposed to it while still in their childhood.
I don't mean to sound rude, and I apologise if I do, but a comment like that smacks of someone getting up on a soapbox and proselytizing.
that's your opinion, and I can understand it (and partially agree to it, even), but understand that it's not universal to humanity. Hell, it's not even universally applied to North America. That doesn't mean I condone eight-year olds having sex - that's not the point. But "sex" and "sexuality" are two different things.
And, realistically speaking, we sexualize our children before they even speak. That's why you give pink balloons when a girl is born, and blue balloons when a boy is born. It's why Junior has a toy truck, while Daddy's little girl gets a pink bow. And it's why little girls start wearing make-up, or going clothes-shopping, or wearing tiny little dresses, at a very young age. And that's not an inherently bad thing (just like, as you said, teaching martial arts isnt' inherently bad).
Doing otherwise would only have repugnant consequences, and no positive consequences.
Again, no. In the !Kung tribe (and many other hunter-gatherer societies, such as the Semai), for example, children learn sex games, and play sex games, amongst themselves, starting even before the age of six. They "have sex" (play at having sex) before they're ten. Are there any repugnant consequences? Not really.
Positive consequences?
For starters, there's no "shame" associated with entering adulthood (especially for girls) and there's no sexual mores attached to behaviour. Sex is just another part of being an adult, and that's how they view it. It's no different then when you mimic your parents by having a job, or cooking dinner, or anything else.
It also makes things like your wedding night a lot less stressful. And it's been shown to improve confidence of children all around.
I think that you're getting "sexuality" and "sex" confused. Children having actual "sex" is probably a bad thing, no doubt (especially if it's an adult doing it to them). But realize that all children are sexualized, and that it's not inherently a bad thing.
Sorry for singling you out, there, but I'm an anthropology major, and "This is the way it is" comments really tick me off.
If you're looking for some interesting comments on the matter, check out Marjorie Shostak's
Nisa for a lot of talk about sexualization of children (and it's positive and negative effects). Robert Knox Dentan's
The Semai: A nonviolent people of Malaya also has quite a bit of information on sex play among children, that are even more overt than that found in the !Kung (but are less detailed in the actual book).