[OT] Hey there, Dr. Midnight, what's going on with your love life right now?

[Pielorinho]

I'm ABSOLUTELY missing out on what you're saying. A toilet? Trash can? What do you mean? Ehh? Huhh?

Q. What's often pastel pink plastic on one side, textured cotton on the other side, completely asbestos-free (despite internet rumors), and would clog up a toilet?

Trash cans are your friends.

Daniel
who once, bizarrely, got laid based on his bravery in the face of menstruation

 

[Dr Midnight]

Oh, that, of course. I thought by the "preferably with a lid" thing that something unsaid was... unsaid. I'm terribly bright today.

So, because I seem to have such an audience, I'll tell you that Alison is girl #2. Girl #1 you haven't heard about, because there's been nothing to tell so far- just correspondance. However, it's MUCH more encouraging. There won't be anything to mention on this until May, but... More on that later.

I really don't see Alison calling me in the future. I dunno. Women confuse me.

 

[Pielorinho]

[double post]

 

[Arravis]

Pielorinho wrote:
****Creepy! This isn't stalking, but it has weird stalker vibes, I think: if she didn't give you her number, it's probably gonna seem weird to her that you're calling her.****



He met her sister, they spent time together, she seemed to like him (as a friend) and gave him a few bits of advice on dealing with her sister. I just thought it might be wise if he followed up on that if she lived a few towns away or some such. If she lives thousands of miles away... forget it, lol. Just an idea anyway... I've never actually done anything like that myself.

I do disagree with the idea that you shouldn't consider going out with her (other then the fact that she lives far away) just cause you dated her sister a few times. For all you know, she's the ultimate girl of your dreams and is interested in you herself. Anyway, I'm not saying it's something you should do right away (give it a few weeks, prefferably 1-2 months), but I don't think it's a bad thing.

Btw, I consider my girlfriend "out of my league", but she's loves me and I love her . So don't use that as an excuse!

Well, if I seem incoherent, sorry... didn't get much sleep last night and I'm at work, half-zombified.

 

[Darklone]

Jo Doc

Advice if you want it (if not skip):

Get a book and read or go to some friends and have fun. Do something else. She'll call or not. Never mind.

Oops, I forgot, you post here and read and have fun. Well never mind

 

[Clefton Twain]

You're giving me an ulcer...

Just reading this whole saga is irritating me. I don't post much but felt I had to say something.
I'm no authority on dating...heck, I was downright lucky to snag my wife. But, well, this whole situation pretty much sucks. I'll say my piece and then shut up.

1. If she can't like you for who you are, RPG's included, then what kind of life together would you envision? If it *did* work out, would you feel like you had to play in secret?

2. I think the ball is basically in her court. You've put a lot of effort into this whole thing and gotten only confusion out of it. You've obviously failed your Sense Motive check (had to at least have ONE gaming reference in here). You've had to hide parts of your life and work just to get two words out of her. Do you want to feel all jittery, confused and nervous every time you two are together?

Don't get me started on the nether wart medicine.

You've gone out on three so-called dates and you're keeping secrets from her (not dark, dirty ones at least) and you're no further along than on the first date--just more confused. Oh, and you now know what it feels like to be ignored on a regular basis. You don't need that.

My only *real* suggestion (rather than just rambling) is get her alone and ask "what's the deal?" Tell her your feelings and put it out in the open. At least then if you find out the horrible truth you will at least no longer have to wonder. And maybe she'll actually warm up to you when she knows how you feel.

--CT

 

[Enkhidu]

Hey Doc!

I've been reading this thread since you started it about a week back, and feel I need to say something that might have been overlooked.

Meeting people in person is a far better way to gauge people than via the internet (which is how you met Alison, if I remember correctly).

Now the reason I point out this very obvious thing is that - if Alison has indeed put you in the "friend" catagory - you may have just missed out on meeting a large portion of her circle of friends, and thereby meeting women who might not put you in that "friend" catagory (and meeting them in person no less...).

I have to say, that if it were me, I might have gone to that Denny's for just that reason. It never hurts to keep your options open...

Anyway, good luck with girl #1! You'll do just fine.

And remember that mantra - "Beeeee yourself!"

 

[qstor]

I met my wife through a personal and I met a bunch of great people on AOL. So I think in today's age the Internet and personals are ok to meet people. Just remember to "meet" in public and don't give them your home address to you feel really safe with them..

Today's safety lesson..

Dr. - I would leave the Greyhawk poster on the wall. It weeds out the Forgotten Realms fans Just kidding...I like both settings, Dragonlance too! I'm even getting into Spelljammer although late..

Mike

 

[qstor]

Ashtal - maybe you can fix him up with a single gaming girlfriend of your's

Then you can meet halfway like in Toronto or something

Mike

 

[maddman75]

Oh, that, of course. I thought by the "preferably with a lid" thing that something unsaid was... unsaid. I'm terribly bright today.

So, because I seem to have such an audience, I'll tell you that Alison is girl #2. Girl #1 you haven't heard about, because there's been nothing to tell so far- just correspondance. However, it's MUCH more encouraging. There won't be anything to mention on this until May, but... More on that later.

I really don't see Alison calling me in the future. I dunno. Women confuse me.

Doc! Stop, immedietly!

There ARE NO LEAGUES! NONE! There are women that are more or less attractive to the tastes of different men, and men that either have the nuts to go for what they want or not.

Never, EVER assume that you know what kind of guy a girl would like based on what she looks like. You'd be amazed what can happen with a little persistence and guts.

Good move on chucking this one. I don't think there was some bizarre head game going on with Alison and Roy, just a flaky chick. There's lots of them out there. Roy grabbed her attention, the idea of going to Dennys grabbed her attention (for some strange reason - Dennys should only be visited when you are totally wasted or totally exhausted). Even if you'd hooked up with her it would have been high maintenence.

Oh, and I never joke about the Tao of Steve.