My experience. If you don't want to play D&D the way most people expect it to be played you're better off playing a different game.
There's so many people out there looking for D&D that they'll "settle" for a game that isn't in the style they really want. To some extent this is even true of OSR games which are D&D enough they get the 5e spillover.
Whereas if you advertise for something like Conan 2d20 you might find it harder to find players initially, but you'll have a better chance of finding players who want to actually play the game and will stick around.
So because I think dungeon crawls are boring I've been doing it wrong for the past few decades? Games where the main goal of the game is to break into monster's homes and steal their stuff hasn't worked for me for a long time.
I've also never had any issue finding or retaining players. You just have to be clear on what type of game you run and accept that every once in a while I'm not the right DM for a person and vice versa. Heck, one of the reasons I got back into DMing (long, long ago) was because I couldn't find a game that was working for me so I started a new group.