"Hey folks, come on over to my Martini Bar"
"You're limiting my choices!"
"You're removing my agency as a drinker"
"You're a terrible bartender!"
Overall, I agree with
@Remathilis and
@Minigiant, and what others have said in the thread is that there is no "DnD", per se. We all use the rules, but what those rules, and splatbooks, and 3PP materials all mean is going to be person and group dependent. I would never say to a group, "Hey, let's play DnD". I'd say (from my last campaign) "Hey, let's play a Moonshaes game in FR, set in the year 900 DR, with a Dark Age setting and technology level, low magic, using the PHB." Then session zero I can hash out more of the specifics. (Unfortunately, the game quickly turned into regular old FR DnD using 5e, as everyone selected spellcasting classes or MC'd into them. And I'm not a "new" player/DM.)